Let’s be honest, the number of divorces that occurs annually leaves spouses with little hope. But I want you to know that your marriage does not have to end up as another divorce statistic. Your marriage can survive! The reason that marriages don’t last is more than likely found in the fact that most people have no idea what marriage really is. There is a carnal understanding that the euphoria you feel when you are in love is what should drive you to marriage. Perhaps you found your spouse or yourself pregnant prior to marriage, and for the sake of the child, you decided to be wed. Perhaps you were dating someone for many years and it just seemed like the reasonable thing to do. Whatever the reason, majority of marriages occur without a proper understanding of what it will take to be married in the first place. In order for your marriage to overcome this difficult and tumultuous time, you must come to a proper understanding of How God designed marriage so that you can both be a blessing to each other.
Proverbs 18:22 reminds us that “he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” This means that marriage was not meant to cause pain, marriage was designed to be a blessing. As a Pastor for over 10 years, I have helped many marriages that were on the brink of disaster turn 180 degrees and are currently moving in another, more prosperous direction. I believe that God wants the same for you. In the coming weeks, I will, with God’s help, break the faulty foundations that been erected in your marriage in a way that make it easy for you to understand and apply to your marriage.
As with any process, the very first thing that needs to be addressed is pride. One must understand that he/she doesn’t know in order to be helped. As with salvation, so with marriages. It is impossible to fill a cup that is already full. The cup must by emptied in order to be filled. So I ask that you say this repair with me.
“Gracious Father in heaven, I come to you humbly in admission that my marriage is not what You have ordained it to be. I recognize that I have been trying to fix this situation on my own and I haven’t fully trusted You. So I take this time to ask You to help me. Teach me Your ways and change my heart towards my spouse. Free me from false condemnation and give me hope for my marriage and my future. In Jesus name, Amen.”
I welcome your marriage questions, and will do my very best to answer every question that is asked, you can do so by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org . You can also follow me on Facebook @Ps Kevin Counts or on Twitter: @pastorkcounts for updates and words of encouragement.
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